In every newspaper and malaysian owned blogs I’ve read today, there is a sure mention of two separate cases (and separate geographical locations) of the unfortunate victims of rape-murder incidents – both of them 10 years old; Nurul Huda Ghani and Hasirawati Saridi. The entire nation is still shaking, antagonized over such brutality whilst wishing each other a happy new year. There is an air of helplessness when one listens to the conversations. Everyone is sure that the person/s that has been apprehended by the police is/are the offender/s. Incidents this distressing gives everyone a chance to air out their say looking for immediate scapegoats amongst which includes drugs, alcohol, free sex, lack of love, lack of education, lack of religious upbringing, blablabla the list goes on and on – and some even blamed the government for allowing the proliferation of pornographic VCDs/DVDs (hello? Did you not follow the fake VCD crackdown over the news? I couldn’t find my friendly beng VCD vendor for months!). The person who’s blaming something/someone is usually the ones who’s never smoked up a joint or got sloshed even on cheap liquor. How about lack of understanding? Diminished Responsibility.
Even as I write this, I fear the normal responses that would be (so you on the rapists’ side? You do drugs eh?) as annoying as a tap-poke on the back of my shoulder the way my brother does it when he wants to wake me up from an afternoon nap. Even the political parties are making noises about it (the General Election coming up, people!!!). One political party is out to blame the indecencies of the way women dresses (hello? The victims were innocent 10 year olds and please okay! A scantily clad woman or boygirl does not give anyone the ticket to rape). The government is now discussing in totality a proposal to flog child rapists in public, before deciding whether to enforce it – which is the statement and reaction of my esteemed and brand new Prime Minister. Can I say something Mr. Prime Minister?
Why not publicly flog ALL sexual offenders? Is there any difference between the rapist-murderer of Canny Ong and child-rapists? No. What about Gintak Gabui who raped his granddaughters (mid 1990s)? What about the time when I was working as a cashier in a club and the manager stands behind me, pushes his groin against the back of my jeans and says, “oh yeah, don’t bring up the sexual harassment thingy just cause you’re a law student” bullshit? I totally agree with the idea of having a sex-offender registry implemented in Malaysia. Post their faces on every highway billboard. An online archive would be great too so the whole world will know that sexual offenders aren’t always some small town drugged out loser but the general managers or CEOs of establishments and ageing pop-stars. No mercy.
On another note: why blame free sex? What is so wrong about free sex when it involves two or three or a roomful of consenting adults? The entire Sexual Offenders Act should be re-written and I mean rewritten in a broader context which would show its people that sex between two men is not unnatural anymore. Didn’t anyone hear? Anal sex is the new black. Where things like blowjobs should be so normal that it does not need mentions in the Act unless it is done upon by force or blackmail or fear of life. I’d like to hear from any men who don’t like fellatios.
LEGALISE prostitution! By that i mean in a business sense – no lewdness or dark alleys but consenting tax paying employees. This could sound shallow to many but it would greatly help curb sexual repression; the men do not need to hide and kill when they have uncontrolled urges; they can pay, get satisfied and these guest relations girls can then pay their taxes which would greatly increase the standard of civic-living. More incoming taxes to hire more workers to clean up what wonderful public utilities available. People are born in such a way that reverse-psychology somehow works for the best. Yes I know some finds pornographic videos distasteful but that’s because they probably haven’t watched it and only came to such conclusions based on their own experience (note singular) on their matrimonial bed. Have you watched porn? It’s funny. It’s even funnier when a bunch of girls watches it at bridal shower. Moralnya: if you create a point of deprivation, there is a greater twist of desire in that the deprived will always want to seek the object of depravity.
There’s no way anyone could live up to the Joneses. Even the Joneses have skeletons in the closets. Gay father, drunk mother and a son and daughter who probably thinks incest is best. Keeping up to the image is so 1950s, its time to address the problem with an open mind really. For those who blamed improper religious upbringing have probably not heard of the catholic priests who sexually abuse their naïve choir/altar boys with promises of a place in heaven.
I cried just reading the headlines about the two girls when the incident happened. I have three nieces ages seven, five and one; and I don’t want to be living the rest of my life in fear of what could happen. How misfortunes happen, how could anyone bring themselves to hurt such innocent lives? The parliamentary act should be such that sexual offenders will be properly punished; and I’m not talking twelve or twenty years (max) in jail – I’m talking mandatory life sentence. More than 16 year old Lionel Tate (Florida) who is sentenced to life imprisonment (incident happened when he was 12 y/o) for killing his playmate; and this is murder without rape. There were talks of rehabilitations; and I’m thinking – the only way to rehabilitate these offenders is total brainwash or like my friend lividly said: “cut out their dicks, suffocate their balls in tight knots until it falls off, keep them enclosed in a hannibal lecter glass case with a tiny TV outside playing grainy unfinished porn back to back until they have to gouge their own eyes out of misery…”. Maybe that way they will discover the true meaning of despair.
I feel only the gravest sympathy for the families of the Nurul Huda Ghani, Hasirawati Saridi and Canny Ong. I fervently hope that they get all the care, help and justice properly adjudicated; and that they will be able to move on with their lives. The painful step of trying to go back to normal living is a very difficult mountain to climb. Everyone has had their say (me included), let’s just shut up and in the wise words of Marilyn Manson: “listen to what they have to say…”
